Positivity👌🏾

  It takes a lot of strength and in some cases self control in trying to see someone’s view point on the need to think positively after one has been at the behest of back-to-back impediments. At the onset it only fuels rage because you feel the person doesn't have the slightest of ideas as to how you’re feeling or even going through. 

   They may be deficient in the two factors which have led to you being clouded by your  thoughts but the words or advice they articulate are ones that offer a stretching arm of help through those dark clouds which hung over your head – but there’s a catch.

Being mentally positive isn’t like taking some sort of neurologically manipulative serum to induce a state of equilibrium in one’s neurochemistry thereby making you impervious to the emotional turmoil that’s associated with the aftermath of experiencing hindrances. 

It’s more of a process which you can start today.  To the best of my knowledge, there are no standard steps to take to achieve this but we can map out something for ourselves, tailor it to suit our needs so we become better if not passionate and or persistent.

Someone once said, “Thinking positively isn’t about expecting the best to happen every time but accepting that whatever happens is best for the moment”.   Truly if we can hold on tenaciously to this sort of mantra whenever we’re faced with setbacks, I can be very certain that we’d witness the rise in a new breed of humans showing resilience in both the mental and attitude aspect..

Believe and make a conscious effort to tell yourself that no matter how bad it is or how bad it is going to get, you’re going to make it because greater is He that is in you than he that is of the world (1^st John 4:4)

Love❤️, a Feeling or Choice?

So I found this on Tumblr and goodness gracious did it shine some light of perspective unto the issue of love being either a feeling or choice. I can only hope that after reading this, you find much lucidity in this too.

“ - Is love a feeling or a choice?

We were all a bunch of teenagers and so naturally we said it was a feeling. She said if we clung to that belief, we’d never have a lasting relationship of any sort.

She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and made us ask them why it lasted or failed. At the end I asked them if love was an emotion or a choice.

Everybody said it was a choice

It was a conscious commitment

It was something you choose to make every day with someone who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the “feeling of love” had vanished or faded and they weren’t happy.  They said feelings are always changing and one cannot build something on such shaky foundation.

The married ones said when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, identifying what broke and how to fix it by recreating something worth falling in love with.

The divorced ones said they chose to walk away

Ever since that class, that project, I never looked at relationships the same way.

I understood why arranged marriages were successful; I discovered the differences in feelings and commitments.

I’ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I’ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated towards finding something to adore even 

on the ugliest days

I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they choose to find them again”