Having A Choice, Say or Both😌: the sequel

"Keep practicing Jeff, keep practicing and you'd be good at it" I can recall my mother telling me whenever I failed to completely lace my sneakers. I'd often do it haphazardly in link to how I remembered her doing it for me prior to leaving for school 😂.

 Truly with practice, I got soo good at it that I didn't need her verification as to if I did it right or not before stepping out. Here the neuroscientist will tell you that neuroplasticity has occurred; also known as brain plasticity is the process where the brain modifies it's connections after the alteration of neural pathways and it's synapses. This happens when there has been an influence resulting from an environmental, behavioural or neural change. Basically your brain has been re-wired to accommodate what has been learnt.

 With even more practice, you minimize indecisiveness or rewire your brain if I should say till what you seek to assimilate, becomes embedded in your subconscious. This is the level you should aspire to achieve if you want to have a say over situations or occurrences in your life.
 Much like me as a child where I didn't have a say over how my laces were done, it was only after practicing that I elevated towards having a say. Nonetheless instead of shoe laces or something less momentous, use this analogy in synchonity with life choices. Choices that you've been reluctant towards taking because you know you can't live with the aftermath yet you're screaming within to take it. Your brain doesn't appreciate indecisiveness as it "takes orders from you".

The whole idea is to be as less indecisive as possible, accepting the fallout from having made wrong choices but not living to reenact them. To learn from each wrong choice you make to the point of when even being faced with two terrible choices, you'd be able to pick the less terrible amongst the two and live by it.  Do not misconstrue me but taking risks without indecisiveness is totally different from making hasty decisions. In the sense that, one makes you learn lessons while the other leaves you utterly disappointed with or without possible chance at coming back.

Afterall one should be comfortable being uncomfortable for life in this world is a great struggle.

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Having a Choice, Say or Both 😌

If you are not familiar with E40's song, choices then you'd probably be acquainted with that of Sarkodie's Hand to Mouth. In this piece of music the rapper talks about what he did or does with his earnings. From buying lands, putting up real estate which aggregates the basic idea of wisely investing and bagging of assets to knowing when to "treat yo' self". This of which he believes should be the calibre of thinking every growing adult should possess.

Its a choice to take up or do away with what he articulates but he advises that you do take it up so you get to treat yo' self when the time is right.

It's one thing to have a choice, another to have a say or even both when a situation or circumstance arises. Whichever you're faced with, I want you to cognize that there lies a clear line of distinction which when identified, helps to make you connect the dots easily as some seem to have done with their lives.

You should fathom that it all starts from somewhere, in this case the first level which'd be being limited to having choices. We're faced with having to make choices at every single second and or turn in our lives. From choosing what pattern to observe when we wake up in the morning to even how we'd want to have a delicacy done so that we can attain that happiness from having achieved a desireable taste.

Our choices are often made consciously or with nescience and will most definitely have consequential or inadvertent repercussions. James Van Praagh said and I quote,

"I believe life is just a series of decisions we make, and depending on our choice, must live with the result of that decision". 

If we for certain can't live with the aftermath of the choices we make as humans to live our lives, then we cannot live this life.

 Mr. van Praagh goes on to say that the choices we usually make consist of a multitude of possibilities and, whether real or imagined, we must recognize that in some way the decision will change our life forever.

" As a result of there being so many factors involved with our decision-making and with its unknown result, many of us hesitate to even make a choice, thinking it would be safer and that we’d be better off where we are instead of delving into the unknown. Just think of the number of events in history that would never have occurred if someone did not make the choice to do something different, unknown, unproved or un-experienced? How many relationships would never have been realized without making a particular choice?" ~ Choices in Life, James Van Praagh

I'd entreat you to ponder over this as we prepare to enjoy our weekend while destressing and recuperating for the week that awaits us. Take care of yourself and know that God loves you❤.


Do check back next week for the continuation of this post on Having a Choice, Say or both.